Losing someone important is painful. Death just has its way of coldly telling those left behind that it has just taken away someone, a part of their lives, for good, never to be seen again. At that point, reality reintroduces itself and reminds us of our mortality, and the temporariness of everything in the world. This is the case no matter how the death occurred. Whether we expected the departure or were surprised by the same, the pain feels just as strong. The undeniable persists – that person who passed away is gone forever and those unfortunate to not go with him or her are left behind to suffer, grieve and feel lost.
And this is reality. The agony exists, keenly felt anywhere, anytime, in every minute – every second – that the loss is remembered. Say, just hours after the death, in that living room where the family would always watch TV together, or on the porch where grandfather would always read his newspaper, or in the hospital emergency room where father succumbed to the complications of his illness, the loved ones would feel the hurt in its purest and truest form. In those moments, the pain is real.
It is in those moments that the idea of cremation could compound the pain. It is not an arbitrary or unrelated matter, though it seems so at first.
Discussions about how the remains of the dearly departed will be handled begin as soon as the death occurs. Cremation amplifies the hurt when it is unfamiliar to the family, and when they cannot do anything about it. To the family or loved one, cremation simply involves the incarceration of the already-dead body of their family member or loved one.
The idea of burning down flesh and bones to ashes seems unreasonably cruel and unnecessary. It is crucial to remember, though, that the minds of those left behind are almost certainly clouded with sadness, and they should be understood, and their unfavorable disposition towards the process should be respected.
This is so because, as it is with the very aspect of a loved one’s death, the family and loved ones left behind often do not have a say as to how his or her remains should be treated or kept. This is inexplicably and deceivingly hard.
This feeling of helplessness is often underestimated and not seen by everyone who should. There are three of them – the one who died, the ones left behind and the funeral or crematorium service provider.
The dearly departed will be excused, to some extent. At the least, the family and loved ones will respect his or her personal decision to get buried or cremated, whether they agree with it or not. Just as reasonably, they, themselves, can be oblivious to the unspeakable and unidentifiable pain forced upon them. It is therefore, important to have someone, or some people – most commonly, the funeral services provider –to help them cope with their grief and sadness.
Unfortunately, sometimes, this third group likewise misses out the despair felt by the ones left behind. From simply failing to say condolences or expressing sympathy, to blatantly marketing caskets or urns or funeral flowers inconsiderately – for business’ sake – as if there was no dead person, and the people they are talking to are not mourning, to committing careless mistakes in the arrangements, all these make the loss worse for those left behind and talks of cremation come in here, when they fail to describe the process, or explain its significance, or when they forget to properly store and return the possessions of the deceased.
Clearly, it is important to have an understanding funeral and crematorium services provider. We know that need, and we give our almost seventy years’ worth of experience as proof of our commitment. We will take care of everything for our dearly departed and for his or her loved ones, so that the funeral or cremation process will turn out as smoothly, solemnly, and memorable, as possible.
In this most difficult of times, rest assured that we understand the pain you bear. We are here to help. Our team of experts will treat you as family and listen to your every concern and thought.